Is he losing interest, or are you overthinking it?
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Replies got shorter. He took six hours instead of six minutes. Now your brain is writing a breakup speech he hasn't given. Let's separate a normal dip from an actual drift.
Anxiety vs evidence
Anxiety reacts to a single data point, one dry text or one slow reply, and builds a whole story from it. Evidence looks at the pattern over a couple of weeks. The fastest way to calm the spiral is to stop reading one text and start reading the trend.
Signs it's just a dip
He's slower but still starts conversations sometimes. He still makes or keeps plans. The warmth is there when you're actually together. Life is just busy. Dips happen to people who like you.
Signs it's a drift
He's stopped starting conversations. Plans get vague or quietly disappear. The energy is lower across days, not hours. You're the only one reaching now. A drift is a pattern, not a moment.
What actually helps
Write it down instead of guessing. Note who reaches out first, whether plans still happen, and how the last two weeks compare to the two before. A few lines a week is all it takes. Once you can see the pattern on the page, you stop torturing yourself over a single 'k', and you get your answer without sending the paragraph you'll regret.